DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently got married, and while most of the day went beautifully, there’s one thing that’s really been bothering me: One of my bridesmaids, whom I considered a close friend, didn’t show up to the wedding. She never told me why. We had been in touch leading up to the big day, and as far as I knew, everything was fine. She had her dress, she was at the wedding rehearsal and she seemed excited for me. When the day came, though, she was just ... gone. No text, no call, no explanation. She didn’t reach out the day of, and she hasn’t reached out since. It’s been weeks. I’ve gone back and forth between being hurt, confused and angry. Part of me wants to call her and ask what happened, but another part of me feels like the silence speaks for itself. I’m trying not to let this overshadow such an important time in my life, but it really stings – especially since she was someone I thought would be standing beside me for such a big milestone. Should I reach out or let the friendship go? – Missing Bridesmaid DEAR MISSING BRIDESMAID: Reach out to her. You didn’t say if anyone else has given you a report about her. If you have not heard anything, you should be worried that something bad happened to her. It is odd for a bridesmaid to go AWOL for a wedding.
