DEAR HARRIETTE: I would love some advice on how not to feel behind in life compared to my friends. I am going into my last year of college, and all my friends are doing things to take steps toward their careers. One friend is off to New York City and another to Dallas, both to work in finance. Two of my friends graduated a year early and are taking gap years before applying to medical school. Lastly, my best friend is doing mathematics research at a prestigious university. I, however, have nothing: no internship or research project.
DEAR HARRIETTE: My best friend of 20 years is moving away with her husband and family all the way from Connecticut to Thailand so they can both teach English there. They will be gone for five years, with the possibility of moving there permanently. While I’m excited for their new adventure, I can’t help but feel a sense of loss at the thought of her being so far away. My family and hers have done so much together ever since we both got married and started our families.
Afriend who's worked in Washington politics for decades was thinking aloud about a commencement speech she was scheduled to give at her law school alma mater. She didn't want to give the students fluff. She wanted to be congratulatory while not patronizing them. She wanted to make a point about gratitude, stewardship and humility.
DEAR HARRIETTE: Recently, I discovered that my sister had gotten engaged, but not from my sister directly. Instead, I had to find out from our mom, three weeks after the fact. As someone who shares a close bond with my sister, I couldn’t help but feel blindsided by her decision to keep such significant news from me. While I understand that everyone has their own way of sharing personal milestones, I can’t shake the feeling of disappointment and exclusion.









