DEAR HARRIETTE: I have deep feelings for my partner of five years, but since I gained more financial stability, I've noticed a shift in his behavior. He seems to have become complacent, no longer making efforts to contribute financially or surprise me as he did in the past. I find myself shouldering the responsibility for our bills and taking care of both of our needs. I'm torn between my love for him and feeling like I'm carrying the weight of our relationship alone. Is it wrong to contemplate ending things if this dynamic continues, or should I try to address these issues in our relationship? — Dependable Girlfriend DEAR DEPENDABLE GIRLFRIEND: Long-term relationships experience many twists and turns along the way. Unless the two of you keep talking about what's going on in your lives, you and your partner will not be on the same page. Yes, your earnings have increased. Should that automatically mean that you take over all financial responsibilities? No. But if you have not discussed this with your partner, you cannot assume what he believes.