DEAR HARRIETTE: I have two adult is already indepen- children — one who dent, and another who is struggling. I’m really worried about him. He seems to have a lack of my husband and I have confidence, even though provided him with everything so that he could succeed. He got a great education and did fairly well in school. But his motivation is limited. He has a job, but not in his area of interest, and he seems to be floundering. He doesn’t make enough money to be on his own fully, so my husband and I supplement his income. He still lives at home. I’m ing. Do you think that he not sure if this is help- would get his act together if he were more motivated? What can we do to help him grow up and accept responsibility for his life? — Leaving the Nest