What if President Joe Biden opened his upcoming State of the Union address this way: On this Hill which was my home, I am stirred by old friendships. Though total agreement between the executive and the Congress is impossible, total respect is important.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I find myself at a crossroads. I'm 29, and I recently lost my job at a finance company. The uncertainty of the future is overwhelming. An opportunity has recently presented itself to teach abroad in Tokyo. The idea of moving to a different country with a new culture and to teach abroad is exciting. Japan has always been a place I've dreamt of visiting, and this seems like the perfect opportunity to not only explore a new country, but also gain valuable life experiences. On the other hand, I can't get rid of the fear of the unknown. The stability of a job and the familiar surroundings I've known are slipping away, and the idea of moving to a foreign country adds an extra layer of uncertainty.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a 29-yearold single mom to twin boys who are 6 years old. Due to unforeseen financial constraints, I find myself unable to afford professional child care services. In light of this, I am considering asking my family for help in watching my kids from time to time. However, I'm concerned about bringing up the topic. I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable or obligated, because I wouldn't be able to pay them much or anything at all. How can I communicate my situation to my family, expressing the need for their support, without putting them in an awkward position? I want to ensure that my request is respectful, understanding that their time is valuable. Any advice on framing this conversation and addressing the financial aspect without making them feel burdened would be greatly appreciated. — In a Bind DEAR IN A BIND: Think about who might be the most receptive to helping you, and talk to that person first. Be honest about your situation. Explain that you need help sometimes with watching your children. Admit that right now you cannot afford to hire a babysitter, so you are hoping that family members can help out on occasion. Ideally, your family members would not charge you anything when they pitch in. Do not offer what you don't have. What you should provide is food, toys and anything else that will make your children's stay with them as easy as possible. Ask this family member to help you broach the request with others as you map out a strategy.
CLINTON DAILY NEWS EDITORIAL
Fifth Avenue in New York City is a bustling place, filled with tourists, commuters and residents. Even there, a little tranquility is possible, thanks to St. Patrick's Cathedral. Unless it's very early in the morning, there are always people walking around the church — some of them with selfie sticks, some of them lighting candles. There is also a chapel dedicated to Mary deep within that is kept as a sacred space for prayer. It's a bit of an oasis in a loud, crowded world.







