Mom’s parenting confession hurts reader

DEAR HARRIETTE: Out of nowhere, my mom confided in me that she never really enjoyed being a mother. She said that since I am 45 years old, she feels like she can finally be honest about it. She told me she loves me and my siblings, but the day-to-day experience of raising us was overwhelming and exhausting. She said working full-time and then coming home to care for three children felt like a burden she never really wanted. She even admitted that if she could go back, she wouldn’t have had kids at all.

Elizabeth Ko, M.D.

Dear Doctors: Cannabis is legal where I live. I’m not a heavy user, but I do enjoy it now and then. I just heard about a study that ties using cannabis to heart disease. There’s not a lot of information about how using cannabis affects your health, and I would like to know more about that study.

Daughter struggles to afford dream school

DEAR HARRIETTE: My oldest daughter is preparing to head to college in the fall. She has worked so hard over the years – as a student and as a sister. Her father and I spent a lot of our time working, and she picked up the slack with her two younger siblings.

Employee hesitant to have friend as boss

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have the opportunity to take a job where my friend will be my boss. I’ve never worked in an environment with someone I was friends with prior to working with them, and I don’t often make a habit of becoming close friends with co-workers. I’m a bit wary.

Elizabeth Ko, M.D.

Dear Doctors: I am 72 years old and in good health. Last fall, I got weak and shaky while working in my yard. It was a hot day, so my son insisted on calling 911. They said it was heat exhaustion, and I got treated on the spot. How is heat exhaustion different from heat stroke?

DO JUST ONE THING

• Have you ever thought about how unclean the inside of your car really is? Many of us rarely clean the interior thoroughly, even though our car is a second home. Some independent studies have shown that cars can harbor mold, mildew, bacteria and high levels of unhealthy volatile organic compounds (mostly due to those artificial car fresheners dangling from the rearview mirror). To detox your car, mix a 50/50 solution of rubbing alcohol and water and wipe all of the surfaces down with a microfiber towel. Then ditch the air fresheners altogether!

Friend asks for job recommendation

DEAR HARRIETTE: I work in a supporting role in the entertainment industry. With the work I do and the reputation my company has in this industry, I have met a lot of celebrities and high-profile individuals. A friend of mine is currently looking for new job opportunities and shared what her ultimate dream job would be – it happens to be with a brand I’ll be working with in the next few weeks. She asked if I could share their contact information with her, but I’m not comfortable with that. I do not want to ruffle feathers or compromise my own position, but in the same breath, I want to be a resource for qualified friends in need. While I have been in touch with individuals at this brand, we have not built a close enough rapport for me to refer a friend or make a direct connection.

DO JUST ONE THING

• When storing leftovers in the refrigerator, it’s imperative to cover the food to keep it fresh. But did you know covering your food also helps save energy? The compressor inside your refrigerator is what keeps the air inside cool. Moist air is harder to keep cool, so uncovered food, which emits moisture, causes the compressor to work harder, using more energy. Investing in reusable silicone covers or foil to cover food is a simple and easy way to keep moisture out of the air and help save energy and money.

Sibling wants to stay out of brother’s woes

DEAR HARRIETTE: My brother and his wife are separated, and things have gotten messy. Because it seems that they have come to a standstill, now his wife’s family has started reaching out to extended family members – including me – to encourage us to try to get them back together. I don’t want to get involved.

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