DEAR HARRIETTE: Out of nowhere, my mom confided in me that she never really enjoyed being a mother. She said that since I am 45 years old, she feels like she can finally be honest about it. She told me she loves me and my siblings, but the day-to-day experience of raising us was overwhelming and exhausting. She said working full-time and then coming home to care for three children felt like a burden she never really wanted. She even admitted that if she could go back, she wouldn’t have had kids at all.
• Have you ever thought about how unclean the inside of your car really is? Many of us rarely clean the interior thoroughly, even though our car is a second home. Some independent studies have shown that cars can harbor mold, mildew, bacteria and high levels of unhealthy volatile organic compounds (mostly due to those artificial car fresheners dangling from the rearview mirror). To detox your car, mix a 50/50 solution of rubbing alcohol and water and wipe all of the surfaces down with a microfiber towel. Then ditch the air fresheners altogether!
DEAR HARRIETTE: I work in a supporting role in the entertainment industry. With the work I do and the reputation my company has in this industry, I have met a lot of celebrities and high-profile individuals. A friend of mine is currently looking for new job opportunities and shared what her ultimate dream job would be – it happens to be with a brand I’ll be working with in the next few weeks. She asked if I could share their contact information with her, but I’m not comfortable with that. I do not want to ruffle feathers or compromise my own position, but in the same breath, I want to be a resource for qualified friends in need. While I have been in touch with individuals at this brand, we have not built a close enough rapport for me to refer a friend or make a direct connection.
• When storing leftovers in the refrigerator, it’s imperative to cover the food to keep it fresh. But did you know covering your food also helps save energy? The compressor inside your refrigerator is what keeps the air inside cool. Moist air is harder to keep cool, so uncovered food, which emits moisture, causes the compressor to work harder, using more energy. Investing in reusable silicone covers or foil to cover food is a simple and easy way to keep moisture out of the air and help save energy and money.
DEAR HARRIETTE: My brother and his wife are separated, and things have gotten messy. Because it seems that they have come to a standstill, now his wife’s family has started reaching out to extended family members – including me – to encourage us to try to get them back together. I don’t want to get involved.










