Mother of nine faces financial uncertainty

DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a housewife and mother of nine children, ranging from toddlers to teenagers. Yesterday, my husband told me he wants a divorce. He says he no longer loves me and believes we should part ways. I have to face the reality of supporting our large family on my own. He proposes splitting custody of the children, but I have no clue how I am going to manage financially when the children are with me. I understand that child support will help, but it won’t cover the high cost of raising nine children, especially considering their varying needs, such as education, clothing, food and extracurricular activities.

Increase in drownings highlights water safety

Dear Doctors: Our 3-year-old daughter almost drowned when she fell into a neighbor’s pool last summer. She’s going to be OK, but she is still facing some medical problems. This has made us aware that water safety is actually a health issue. We hope you might address this in an upcoming column.

Who enabled Biden? A case study

On June 4, the Wall Street Journal published a story headlined, “Behind Closed Doors, Biden Shows Signs of Slipping.” Based on interviews with 45 people, the article reported that associates described President Joe Biden as showing signs of age, “a president who appears slower now, someone who has both good moments and bad ones.”

Group frustrated by friend’s boyfriend

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a close group of six friends. “Jane” has always been tight on money, and we’ve often covered her expenses without much fuss, since the other five chip in.

DO JUST ONE THING

• Yes, you should be washing your dog’s water and food bowl every day. Just like your own dishes, a dirty bowl can be a breeding ground for illness-causing microbes. So use very hot, soapy water and scrub with a sponge to get the bowl clean.

Dems must nominate a new candidate

Toward the end of last week’s Biden vs. Trump debate on CNN, I got up from the TV and posted this message on Facebook: “It’s a catastrophe. The Democratic Party has to do something. Biden is coming across as weak, indecisive and even older than he is. Trump’s a madman and a world-class liar. But it’s a TV show, and he’s in charge of the screen. God help us all.”

Wife questions fairness in gift-giving

DEAR HARRIETTE: My husband is upset with me for not buying him the shoes he wanted. Last Mother’s Day, he got me a $20 salad bowl. Normally, I’d appreciate any gift, but then I saw what he bought for his mom, sister and cousin: The items ranged from $450 to $500 and were thoughtfully chosen. I’m usually generous and love making my loved ones happy, but this time, I was hurt that my gift was not only the cheapest, but also an impersonal household item. When I asked him about it, he said I should be grateful because it’s something useful for the house. On Father’s Day, I got him a nice $25 towel. When he complained and said he wanted the dress shoes he’d been eyeing, I told him, “That towel was nice and only cost $25. You should be grateful.”

Super-agers retain cognition through lifestyle

Dear Doctors: I keep hearing the term “super-ager,” but the meaning isn’t clear. I’ve heard it used about older adults who stay physically healthy, who live to be 100 or who have a good memory. Is there a definition? Is someone a super-ager because of lifestyle or genetics?

Michigan takes keys for November

Move over, Pennsylvania. This is a keystone state, too. Pennsylvania lays its claim for Keystone State status for purely geographical reasons. Sitting there virtually in the middle of the 13 Colonies, Pennsylvania earned its name because it, like the keystone in an arch, held the whole structure together as the United States itself came together in the mid-1770s.

Questioning boyfriend’s financial gaslighting

DEAR HARRIETTE: Every chance he gets, my boyfriend says, “I don’t have any money.” He works in the fitness community, whereas I am employed in a corporate setting; I earn significantly more than him, but he has a more robust savings account.

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