DEAR HARRIETTE: I’m a husband seeking advice. My wife has been engaging in a practice she calls “fridgescaping,” which is currently a viral trend on TikTok, where she decorates the inside of our fridge with vases and flowers to make it look pretty. While I appreciate her creativity, I find it to be overly extravagant and inconvenient as I often have to move things around to access items. When I mentioned my concerns, she immediately removed everything without discussion. Since then, she has been distant and uncommunicative. How can I address this issue with her when she’s closing her communication and giving me the cold shoulder? I did not realize this would be such a big issue. – Fridgescaping
DEAR HARRIETTE: I’m 19, and I was invited to a close friend’s major milestone birthday party. Initially, I agreed to go, but I’ve since learned that the theme is “sexy Hollywood.” The mood board my friend created and feels strongly about features tight, skimpy skirts and bralettes, which I’m not comfortable wearing. I prefer more low-key events and feel overwhelmed by the extravagant nature of this theme.
Andrew Jackson, once almost universally admired as a personification of refreshing democratic values, now is considered a prosecutor of genocide. Ulysses Grant, once portrayed as a shiftless drunk and political dunce, is a symbol of generosity and prudence. Woodrow Wilson, once hailed as the idealist of his age, is considered a racist. Dwight Eisenhower, once disparaged as a presidential mediocrity principally interested in his putting game, is remembered for putting America on a strong footing for the coming decade of the 1960s.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I’m starting to feel uneasy about my relationship with my girlfriend. We’ve been together for about a year now, and while I care for her, it seems like when we spend time together, it involves me spending money on her. Whether it’s buying her meals or gifts or covering other expenses, there’s always some sort of financial disbursement expected from me. In the beginning, I didn’t think much of it because I wanted to show her how much I cared. However, now it’s become a pattern, and I’m starting to wonder if she’s with me for the right reasons. It’s not that I mind treating her, but I’m beginning to feel like my value in this relationship is tied to what I can provide financially.









