Wine snob doesn’t share with friends

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a friend who is a wine connoisseur. She knows a lot about it and spends a lot of money on it. I don’t have that kind of money, but I do enjoy wine and like to serve it when guests visit. I find my friend to be obnoxious about her wine tastes. I see her turn up her nose when she sees my selections. She has taken to bringing her own bottles when she comes over to my house so that she can drink what she likes. I find this to be rude – especially since she doesn’t share her wine with others.

40 YEARS AGO

• Noon Lions Club Officers were elected and are shown being congratulated by Region 3 Chairperson Frank Blanton of Elk City. Shown were Walt Stidham, Lion tamer; Patrick McMillin, treasurer; Harvey Smith, chaplain and tail twister; Dr. Frank Nikkel, secretary; Max Murphy, director; Don Marlett, president; Jim Minnix, first vice president; Scott Dotter, third vice president; Mike Burgess, second vice president; and Harold Linderer, director.

Strong friend needs support, too sometimes

DEAR HARRIETTE: I always feel pressure to be the “strong one” in my friend group. I’m the one everyone turns to when they’re falling apart; I’m a level-headed, reliable friend who gives advice, calms tensions and somehow always knows what to say. I genuinely care about my friends and want to be there for them, but lately, I’ve been feeling emotionally drained. It’s like I’m carrying everyone else’s baggage while trying to juggle my own behind the scenes.

Elizabeth Ko, M.D.

Dear Doctors: I have hay fever, but usually it’s not that bad. This year, however, it has been awful. I’m plugged up, my eyes are itchy and by the end of the day, I have a headache.

Political conversations can cause discomfort

DEAR HARRIETTE: As we all know, there’s a lot of controversy happening in the world lately, which often makes for heated discussions. The other day, a few neighbors and I were in the common room of our building, talking about some of the maintenance issues we’ve experienced in the building. Out of nowhere, one guy began sharing his thoughts on immigration. I am cordial with my neighbors but not close with any of them. I was completely caught off guard, and so were other people in the room. While I know not all of us share the same views on immigration, I knew at that moment that most of us didn’t even want to broach the topic. What is a respectful way to end these kinds of politically charged conversations? – Avoiding Politics DEAR AVOIDING POLITICS:

We always assume there will be another time

My parents’ neighbor Rod told them, “I’m going to take the pontoon out tonight, and you’re invited to join me.” It was a nice night – not too warm, with very little wind. It was a perfect night for a pontoon ride around the lake.

How does Trump make his decisions?

Can Donald Trump be trusted? Can we rely on his judgment in a crisis? Those core questions have been raised by the president’s decision to reverse his campaign pledges and attack Iran’s nuclear infrastructure.

Spouse wants to rekindle the romance

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have some friends who recently celebrated a big anniversary. They went all out for each other, hosting a renewal of vows and everything, but just for the two of them. I thought this was so sweet. Meanwhile, my spouse and I barely said happy anniversary to each other this year. It was also a milestone for us, but these days, it feels more like drudgery. I don’t know what to do to rekindle any kind of romance between us, but watching what our friends did gave me a flicker of hope.

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