DEAR HARRIETTE: I currently live with my boyfriend – in part because I have nowhere else to go. When we were first dating, I was living alone, but about two years into our relationship I lost my job, and my boyfriend graciously invited me to move in with him. At the time, it felt OK. I didn’t like being in a position of need, but that aside, things were going really well between us, so I felt OK with the change.

DEAR HARRIETTE: My neighbor sometimes seeks out my husband before she thinks to call me. She is a bit older than me and my husband, and we’ve been friends for the past 20 years or so, but I wonder why she is so fond of my hubby. She and I hang out sometimes, too, but the other night she seemed to be feeling ill and asked my husband to stop by for support. We live right next to each other. Her husband died recently, and she is getting older, so we often check on her, but I don’t know. I wonder: Is this some strange jealousy, or do I have valid concerns? – Clingy Neighbor DEAR CLINGY NEIGHBOR:

30 YEARS AGO

DEAR HARRIETTE: There is someone in my life I care about deeply.